Many parents always easily deny their children's efforts, feel that their children have studied for a long time, but still do not do well, and are not satisfied with their children's current learning progress. They always use other children's children as a comparison, and feel that their children have A talent for learning an instrument. As a result, it greatly discourages children's interest in learning cucurbits, and even hates learning cucurbits, thus falling into an endless cycle, and the slower they learn, the slower they finally give up.

"I really want to tell these parents that, in fact, every child has the right to choose and learn, and you don't have the heart to understand, guide and encourage you, you only know whether the song is good or not, and try some popular songs for them. After learning so much, these songs can't be played, so what's the use of learning! If it doesn't work, I directly deny the child.

In fact, many parents do not know, where is the child's sense of achievement? It's just that they haven't found the key to the door of this music. If they want them to like it more, they must be given something with a sense of accomplishment! Every time the child plays a good song, please treat it like a singer. Therefore, on the way of learning, teachers and parents need to work together to help them find and do things with a sense of achievement. Only after opening this gate can they see the dazzling sunlight and truly find their way.

The 10 sentences that parents dislike the most (with guiding words) are only for personal reference, and specific problems are analyzed in detail!

1. "Did the teacher teach this way? How to sit? How to stand? Is the shape of the hand and mouth like this?"

(Parents, you don’t understand. If you don’t go to sparring to listen to the class, you can’t know the correct method. If you have time to accompany your child, you must at least understand the basics, and you will know which ones are correct next time.)

2. "Why is this place always wrong?"

(Baby, how about we visit this place a few more times? I think you're awesome!)

3. "I must practice for an hour before eating, playing games and watching TV!"

(Children's nature is to play, even adults can't concentrate and sit for an hour)

(You're playing after an hour of good practice! You said it yourself)

4. "I have to talk to you every time before I practice! Why are you not obedient? Don't be conscious of it"

(Try to replace the word "practice" with "Baby, I want to listen to your Hulusi songs" This is a sense of respect for the child)

5. "If I say no, I can't. If I don't study hard, I'm wasting money!"

(Don't link art, hobbies, interests and money, don't put pressure on children)

(Every time you take money, the child will gradually become that learning art is a transaction, forced by you. It is not an instrument for self-cultivation and self-improvement)

6. "I don't care about you anymore, it's up to you, whether you like to practice or not."

(Replace lightly giving up with patient guidance, take your children to enjoy more concerts, and maintain interest)

7. "Be obedient, finish this passage, and then go play!"

(Don't let the children think that practicing the piano is to complete the task, it is inefficient, let them play a song every time, just like a concert)

8. "If you pass level 5, I'll buy it for you..."

(The method of applying pressure varies from person to person and is determined according to the character of the child)

9. "What song did you learn today, hurry up and practice"

(This is the leader's speech, maybe "What song did you learn today, it would be great if you could play it to me and let me enjoy it!)

10. "Why is that kid playing so well and why are you so stupid? It sounds so ugly"

(Don’t directly compare children from other families, you should encourage them from the side. Everyone has their own characteristics and highlights, and children are just average.

But the use of breath is good, the fingers and hands are faster, the accent is great, there is always a bright spot that is stronger than others)

Children’s minds are often fragile, and what they want most is the affirmation and approval of their parents. At this time, if they don’t agree with their children, it is a great encouragement for them, which can increase their enthusiasm and initiative in learning, and subconsciously. Negative words will make their self-esteem feel very bad, they will feel that they are bad, they will learn things slowly with this kind of thinking, and then they will be more disappointed with themselves, so subconsciously staying away will make them feel like this. The mood thing, and finally gave up this instrument.

Please don't deny your children lightly, doubting their abilities is very scary. "Stupid, stupid, stupid, bad" is the most severe sentence in the hearts of children. Don't define labels for children. Relentlessly turns them into an "alternative" at home or school, and while out of tune with their surroundings, their spiritual world becomes darkened.

Edison was listed as a "stupid kid" by his teachers as a child, but his mother kept encouraging him that he would succeed, and finally Edison became a great inventor. In fact, every child is a genius, it's just that many of our parents lack discovery and training methods, and make "genius" pass by with their children. Parents, there are gourd babies at home, please guide me happily, less scolding, but not too squeamish, say more positive energy, it may change the child's voice!